Some of the most aggravating workplace encounters are those involving incorrect decisions by superiors. They agree to too much without thinking about the consequences for their team, they accept new methods without completely comprehending the problem, or they seem to alter their minds like the wind, leaving others in the dark regarding strategy.
It’s true that openly disagreeing with someone in a productive and non-condescending manner can be difficult. But what if that person happens to be your boss? Things are about to get a lot trickier. You and your boss don’t agree on something, and you feel strongly enough about your point of view that you need to stand up and express your worries. However, you’d like to do so in a way that doesn’t make you look like a haughty know-it-all who’s questioning his or her boss’s authority, which could lead to you being kicked off the team.
Doesn’t it sound like a real dilemma? I won’t dispute that disagreeing with someone especially someone who is higher up in the corporate hierarchy, can necessitate some thoughtful thought and deliberation. But it’s possible.
Ask yourself if you’re looking at the matter from the company’s perspective to ensure your viewpoints are relevant. Do your suggestions help the organization accomplish its objectives more quickly? Are your opinions in line with the company’s goals? Disagreeing just because you don’t agree with your boss’s point of view isn’t a valid reason, and it will most likely irritate your boss.
Disputing for the sake of disagreeing isn’t a good idea. Provide relevant data to support your viewpoint, as well as a possible solution to the problem. Your manager will become irritated if you are critical without offering any constructive solutions for resolving the problem. Make sure you have something helpful to say, and your boss will be more inclined to listen to you.
The manner you present your opinions has a big impact on how people react to them. While expressing your viewpoint, keep in mind that it is only your opinion. Keep the conversation open and friendly by assuring your supervisor that you appreciate his or her opinions, even if you don’t always agree with them. Don’t come across as arrogant – this is a proven way to irritate your supervisor.
There is a time and a place for everything, as the adage goes. If you’re going to quarrel with your boss, do so while he or she isn’t feeling well. Choose a time when your employer is calm and comfortable, not hurrying to fulfill deadlines or dealing with a work crisis.
On the other hand, if you have a conflicting view during an internal meeting, put it across in a respectful manner so your boss doesn’t feel embarrassed. It should be framed in a good and constructive light. “If we followed that route, I’d be concerned about X.”, “Another way to look at it is X.”, or “Is it worth examining X?”
Timing and tact are inextricably linked. Before you jump in, you should be aware of your boss’s personality. Perhaps you’ll wait until the afternoon to confront him because you know his mornings are particularly hectic. Maybe your supervisor isn’t used to receiving criticism. Consider calling a quick meeting to ensure you have a few minutes to discuss things through. Rather than attempting to figure things out on the fly, you may mentally and emotionally prepare for the talk.
Any good boss will be more concerned with the company’s success than with his or her own ego. Unfortunately, there are some managers who do not subscribe to that particular mindset. But I’m crossing my fingers that yours does. So, if you can effectively articulate the good outcomes of your perspective or suggestion, you’ll be one step closer to convincing your boss to support you. Let’s utilize the example of the team meeting from earlier to emphasize the concept. We’ll use the same sentences as before, but we’ll change a few things.
Your boss is in charge, so acting as though you’re the one who should be giving out comments and directions won’t go down well with him or her. How are you going to get around this? Asking your supervisor questions, rather than storming in and making demands, is a terrific way to demonstrate that you want to develop a collaborative discussion.
“I really appreciate your concept of organizing weekly team meetings for everyone to get on the same page,” you could say, for example. However, I believe that holding these on Wednesdays rather than Mondays would be preferable. “How do you feel?”
This expressly allows your boss to share his or her opinions or feelings with you, ensuring a non-aggressive and one-sided conversation. In order for your viewpoint to become more of a recommendation or request rather than a strict edict, you must ask questions. And, while it may appear spineless, such attitude works well when dealing with someone in a higher position than you.
In the end, it’s up to your boss to make the final decision. If he or she considers your viewpoint just to reject it and continue with the strategy with which you disagree? You must, however, respect that. It’s simple to believe that you should stick to your guns and argue that your concept is the best option.
However, having a “my way or the highway” attitude will not help you. It’s almost a guarantee that you’ll get kicked out. Even if things don’t work out in the end, you must be able to recognize when it’s time to respect your manager’s decision, let it go, and move on.
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