Many people aspire to be their own boss and leave their 9-to-5 jobs behind. However, dreaming and doing are two very different things, and converting a dream into a reality without guidance can feel unattainable. Emily Thompson and Kathleen Shannon’s book, Being Boss: Take Control of Your Work and Live Life on Your Own Terms, provides practical strategies and advice to help you set up your business and carve out valuable time for the things that important to you.
Here’s a question for you: How many people do you believe are satisfied and enthusiastic about their jobs? What’s sixty percent? Fifty? You might be surprised by the exact figure. Only 30% of American employees are engaged and excited about their jobs, according to Gallup’s research. It’s no surprise that many people aspire to establish their own company. Making the transition from employee to boss, however, is not without its difficulties. How do you put together a company plan and build structure, for example? What about scheduling time for the things that are important to you, such as family, friends, and hobbies?
It’s not impossible, despite how daunting it all sounds. You may have a profitable business while also living a happy life. It’s referred to as “bossing” by the authors. Being the boss necessitates planning, dedication, and faith in the process.
Being your own boss entails designing the life you want both within and outside of the workplace. You invest in the people, activities, and lifestyle that allow you to succeed, not simply your business and your expenses. And the best part is that you have complete control over how these elements are defined! It could be only doing work you enjoy, starting a company with strong principles and ideals, or having the flexibility to travel.
However, no matter how you define the nuances of being the boss, getting there needs a lot of effort. And the only way to get through it is to make the decision to appreciate and trust the process. It’s simpler to make the required changes, from reconsidering your work to modifying your home life, when you enjoy the process. And you’re less likely to fret or feel uncomfortable about it if you believe everything you’re doing will pay off in the long term.
So, how exactly can you build the commitment and trust necessary to land the job and life of your dreams? You’ll need the proper foundations, to begin with. The writers discovered numerous repeating principles while speaking with various entrepreneurs and creatives, which they identify as the basis of being boss.
Meet Marianne and Troy, two designers who want to start their own firm. Naturally, they’re both hesitant to take the risk. They are concerned that their aspirations are unrealistic and that they lack the necessary skills to succeed. The similarities, however, end there. While Troy gives in to the uncertainty and abandons his dream, Marianne confronts it head-on and pursues her vision. Marianne’s mentality is the thing that sets her apart from Troy.
The boss attitude is defined by values, confidence, and optimism. When it comes to facing the problems that come with being an entrepreneur, having the appropriate mindset is critical. The beliefs or principles that govern your decisions and behaviors are at the heart of that attitude. People who value courage, for example, do activities that worry them on a regular basis, whereas people who value authenticity prefer meaningful interactions to small talk.
Think about the things that resonate with you and jot down as many as you can to figure out what your own values are. For example, perhaps you value honesty, stability, and innovation. If you’re looking for some ideas, there are plenty of lists available online.
Consider times when you’ve felt the happiest and most fulfilled, then write down those values you recognize in those situations. After that, put values that are similar together and decide which ones are more important to you. Asking yourself whether you’d battle to defend a particular principle is a fantastic way to start. Reduce the list until you’ve come up with five to 10 fundamental values.
However, having the correct mindset entails more than merely adhering to your ideals. You must also fight imposter syndrome, which is the belief that you lack the necessary skills to build the life you desire. Imposter syndrome affects even the most successful people, and overcoming it necessitates confidence building. Begin by focusing on the qualities and skills you admire in yourself and reminding yourself of them on a regular basis. Repeating positive mantras or affirmations to oneself might also help.
And, while we’re on the subject of positivity, there is another aspect of a boss attitude. Complaining frequently or concentrating on the negative is counterproductive and has a detrimental impact on both your professional and personal life. Meditation might help you to have a more positive mindset. This allows you to become more conscious of your ideas and begin to change them. Finally, cultivate optimism by remembering to be grateful for all of the nice things you already have.
Consider that you’d want to try your hand at gardening. After doing some research, you decide to plant a few seeds in a section of your backyard. You water and fertilize your garden as needed, but your plants aren’t doing well. And it’s easy to see why. In the garden, others have sown their own seeds. Your plants are straining to acquire adequate nutrients and care since you only have so much water and fertilizer to go around.
The solution is straightforward: you must construct a fence to preserve your garden while conserving resources. The same may be said for the path to becoming the boss. Establish clear limits to protect your interests and resources.
Boundaries are boundaries you set to guarantee you have the time and space you need to cultivate the things that matter to you, such as not checking emails on weekends or vacations, or declining chances that don’t serve your best interests. Consider this: it’s impossible to achieve everything, and attempting to do so will only result in stress and, eventually, burnout. Boundaries protect you and your important time, energy, and resources in the same way that a fence protects a garden.
Determine exactly what you want to cultivate in order to set your boundaries. Sure, you want to grow your company, but you might also want to spend more time with your family or pursue creative endeavors on the side. When you know what your priorities are, you can devote more time and energy to them and less time and energy to things that drain you or aren’t important.
You can also set physical boundaries in your professional and personal lives. Having dedicated working hours and a room to work from, for example, or establishing spending guidelines are examples of this.
The next stage is to communicate your boundaries to others around you once you’ve established them. Make your limits clear to anyone who needs to know, whether it’s business partners, clients, or family and friends.
Remember that if you want people to respect your boundaries, you must be diligent in upholding them yourself. So, if you’ve told clients that you don’t react to emails on weekends, sending emails on Saturday morning is the last thing you should do!
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