Every aspect of your life will benefit if you speak with confidence. In the office, the same positive tone that makes you more attractive to women will win you more respect and authority. Check out the suggestions below and see if they work for you.
- Be prepared, practice and anticipate questions
When you join any important discussion, voice, or meeting, make sure you know what you’re talking about. Don’t make the mistake of winging it. Being unprepared puts you at a disadvantage right away; your faith will be shattered by the possibility of being caught off guard. You should know more than just the truth you’re talking. If necessary, prepare by moving several layers deeper. When you’re asked a question or questioned, it’s great to be able to show that you know what you’re talking about.
The importance of practice in good planning cannot be overstated. Knowing the material inside and out gives you a lot of trust (and reduces my reliance on slides, which can go wrong!). Speech is no exception. The trick to doing it well is to do it often. When you’re anxious about a tough discussion, such as making a case for a raise with your employer or giving a public speech, practice what you’ll say beforehand. It’s also a good idea to record yourself and see if you’re using the right pacing and pauses. It also helps you to assess the clarity and volume of your speech.
2. Have the confident look
Keep your head high. Head forward, shoulders back, eyes up and forward. If you’re standing, make sure your feet are firmly planted on the floor and your legs are fully engaged. If you’re seated, adopt a stance that demonstrates you’re present, concentrated, and deserving of respect. Join a space or walk onto a stage with a steady stride and a smile on your face. Maintaining a calm stance will make you believe that you are capable and ready for the situation, even though you aren’t feeling confident. Others will come to believe it as well!
3. Speak clearly and avoid fillers
Have you ever seen a speech that would be much more successful if the speaker didn’t keep saying “umm” or doing something awkward? Stop sloppy vocal patterns including “umms” and repeated hollow phrasing by practicing vocal discipline. If you ever give a public speech, have someone record it. After that, pay attention for any sloppy or inefficient vocal or physical behaviors.
Do you ever start a sentence with “This is just my view,” “Sorry,” “I’m still working on this,” “Well,” “I mean,” or some other negative or ineffective prefix? Most people do it out of habit or nervousness, but caveats and fillers will detract from the assured sound you’re trying to achieve. Instead, just say what you’re thinking. “We should take this pitch in a different direction,” for example, is much more convincing than “Well, I think we should take this pitch in a different direction, but I’m still figuring out the best path to take.”
4. Relax and slow down
Speaking too fast is the most common mistake people make that prevents them from speaking confidently. When someone talks quickly, he sometimes comes off as anxious, uncertain, or lacking in self-control. It’s critical to practice speaking at a slower, more relaxed pace as a result. Speaking in a quiet, deliberate tone conveys optimism – even superiority – and gives the impression that you are in command.
Keep in mind that there is a delicate balance to be struck. You run the risk of putting your audience to sleep if you talk too slowly. And speaking too quickly can make you sound unprofessional or anxious, as if you’re trying to get it over with as soon as possible. Clean up your expression whenever possible, whether you’re on the phone, in a meeting, or in some other discussion.
5. Be comfortable with silence
Keep quiet if you have nothing interesting to say. This can be applied to a variety of cases. If you’ve said something important but are afraid of standing up for yourself (especially if the other person doesn’t reply right away and/or is staring you down), it’s simple to show your fear by apologizing, backing down, proposing alternatives, and so on. It’s not a good idea. It will help you gain respect if you stand by what you’ve said.
If you’re having trouble, try counting backwards from ten or twenty in your mind as you sit in silence. During a presentation, silence can also be used as a weapon. After you’ve said something especially interesting, take a breath. If you can tell that something is landing, take a moment to pause. It’s the mark of a true professional.
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