Have you ever been referred to as “boring”? Humans are people that stick to their routines. We enjoy establishing and sticking to a schedule. Then we also go into auto-pilot mode. Routines can be extremely helpful in getting things done. However, making too much of a routine can become repetitive.
Despite this, many people live boringly repetitive lives or lives in which everything is described or prepared. Well, life doesn’t always go according to plan. Regardless of whether you have a strategy or not, you must be able to go with the river. So, what can you do to stop being boring and start being more interesting?
- Stop your whining.
Everyone needs to let off steam every now and then. However, bear in mind the circumstances: close friends might understand if you needed to confide in them about an issue, but your airplane seatmate could find you extremely boring after 20 minutes of venting about your evil boss.
The decision to complain is also linked to your objectives. When you’re having emotional difficulties, your main objective might be to feel better, in which case airing your complaints might be the answer. However, if the goal is to make connections at a networking event, moaning can make your new contact’s interaction boring. You won’t be able to accomplish all of your objectives at once. There’s nothing wrong with your goal being to feel better rather than to stimulate an enjoyable interaction.
2. Pose some follow-up questions.
After a discussion, one of the most common concerns is that the other person did not ask enough questions. People like talking about themselves and enjoy it when others are interested in what they have to say. So, why are we so afraid to ask questions? It’s likely that our definition of questioning is flawed. Many people believe that by asking a question, they will appear nosy or rude, particularly if the topic is sensitive.
People prefer being asked follow-up questions if they like being asked questions in the first place. Brooks and her collaborators researched the effect of follow-up questions in a number of environments and found that those who ask follow-up questions are more likely to be liked.
Simply listen carefully and be interested to ask good follow-up questions. Avoid asking superficial questions about someone’s background (“Where are you from?” “What do you do?”). Instead, probe their answer to learn more (“Did you like growing up there?” “What was it like?”) after the first question (“Where are you from?”).
3. Change the subject.
Jumping to a new topic faster than you would think is polite will keep a conversation from becoming boring. To be respectful, people can linger on topics for longer than appropriate. They don’t want to offend the person who started the conversation or seem rude or abrupt. When anyone introduces a new subject, however, people often feel relieved, particularly if the discussion has become stagnant.
The amount of follow-up questions asked in both conditions was similar, indicating that changing topics more quickly does not seem to replace depth with scope. Speakers do not ask more probing questions when the subject stalls; instead, they continue to repeat themselves.
4. Create an atmosphere that encourages spontaneity.
It’s frightening to abandon your plans because you’re inviting all sorts of chaos into your life. Fear is, in truth, at the root of most spontaneity issues. You will become less reliant on your plans and live a much more interesting life if you overcome your fears.
5. Take a trip to a new place or try a new hobby,
You certainly don’t have to travel far from home to find a street you’ve never walked, a town you’ve never seen, or a path you’ve never hiked. See what you’ve been missing by visiting a new venue.
Choose an activity that has always piqued your interest but that you have yet to try, as well as a pursuit that has never piqued your interest. Find out what classes are available on both of your two options and sign up for them. Enjoying things you enjoy as well as doing interests you wouldn’t expect to enjoy adds to the excitement of life.
Check out my related post: What makes you unboring?