How to achieve the different types of happiness?

We all want to be happy. But quick question, are you happy? If you need more than two seconds to answer it, I can wait. For many people, happiness is the end all meaning of life; that rare and beautiful thing that they long for more than anything. If you can’t answer that you are happy, don’t worry; you’re in good, if glum, company.

But maybe the question would be easier if we asked: what kind of “happy” are you?

When people talk about “happiness”, there can be more than a few things we are really talking about. The most common understanding of it is “feeling good”. This relates to hedonistic happiness and the seeking of pleasure while avoiding pain. It is a common approach to happiness, one which has been enshrined in the philosophy of Utilitarianism. It is not, however, the only way to be happy.

Eudaimonic Happiness, for example, is rather different. Eudaimonia means “flourishing”and is the idea of having a worthwhile life rather than an explicitly pleasant one. The idea goes back to Socrates and the Stoics who argued that being virtuous was enough to assure a good life even; if it was less pleasurable than a life of vice.

The idea was also the foundation of Aristotle’s virtue ethics, though he argued that a truly excellent life also required a few external goods as well as virtue; money, friendship, beauty, and a decent amount of luck among them. For Aristotle the most worthwhile life is the life of reason, to live virtuously and intellectually is far superior to living otherwise, even if it can be less fun.

More recently, the idea was given a psychological reboot with Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. A person who has reached the apex of the pyramid, self-actualization, and self-transcendence, can be said to be living a Eudemonic life. One where they seek to fulfill their potential and life their lives to the fullest.

There is also the idea of Evaluative Happiness. This idea is fairly straightforward, social scientists ask people on questionnaires to rate their happiness on a scale from 1-10. This kind of happiness is most closely tied to “life satisfaction” and the fulfillment of goals. Given that it can be measured very simply and doesn’t make assumptions about what will make the person answering the question happy, it is considered the gold standard of well-being metrics.

Hedonism can be the easiest kind of happiness to conceptualize, just chase pleasures while running away from pain as fast as you can. However, this isn’t going to work for you in the long run. This was the key insight of the Buddha, the Stoics, and other thinkers throughout history.

The Greek hedonist Epicurus argued that the key to hedonistic happiness was moderation. Living a life of simple pleasures, he thought, would maximize pleasure experienced over the long run. For example; while we might be tempted to live richly even for a short time before returning to a typical lifestyle Epicurus argues that this will make us less happy than if we just lived moderately all along- as then we cannot miss luxury.

For the less than stoic we have John Stuart Mill, the greatest of the Utilitarian philosophers. He expanded on the idea of hedonism being more than the life of base pleasure seeking. In his work, Utilitarianism, he argues that some pleasures are higher than others. For a person who could do both, reading Shakespeare will give more pleasure than drinking heavily, so Mill postulates. Though the accuracy of this statement has been debated for some time; to really achieve hedonistic happiness Mill would have us develop our intellectual abilities and find pleasure in their use rather than seeking the “happiness of a pig”.

For Eudaimonia, Aristotle left us a how-to guide in the form of the Nicomachean Ethics. Suggesting that each virtue is the median between one vice of deficiency and one of excess. He argues that we can, by practice, come to embody virtue and become “flourishing” people, given the good fortune of having the necessary external goods as well.

The difficulty with Eudaimonia, as opposed to other forms of happiness, is that it not only requires most of a lifetime to really get right, but there is still a great deal of debate over what “right” is. Maslow’s hierarchy of needs has been criticized as being of use only to a person living in an individualistic society, what a constitutes a flourishing person, and how you personally can reach your potential, is different for each everybody. Learning what your potentials are is an art in itself.

There is also the criticism that most Eudaimonic theories all but require the individual to be reasonably well off to be successful in reaching their goal. Recognizing this, American philosopher Martha Nussbaum has written on how the Scandinavian countries, with their generous social programs that assure people’s basic needs are fulfilled, are best able to allow their citizens to flourish. The consistently high scores of those nations in happiness rankings suggests they may be on to something.

Evaluative happiness is also very open to individual choice. What makes you happiest is up to you, the problem is going out and getting it. Places with high scores for this kind of happiness can be quite different from one another. Singapore scores very high on happiness tests, but for differing reasons than does Costa Rica. In Singapore, we also look upon places like Bhutan as a benchmark for happiness within the population. However, people who do have this kind of happiness tend to have things in common; like financial security, status, pride in their work, and feeling as though they are living their values. This, like Eudaimonia, can take decades to truly achieve, and can also be very dependent on having a decent amount of luck.

There is more than one way to be happy. Each of the three kinds we considered here is valuable in its own way. By better understanding the ways we can be happy we have a better chance of doing it. Before you despair too much at how long it might take you to become “happy” based on these three schools, remember this quote by the American psychologist Carl Rogers, “The good life is a process, not a state of being”.

This post is dedicated to my late grandma.


Interesting reads:

http://www.theworldcounts.com/life/potentials/four-levels-of-happiness

http://headhearthand.org/blog/2014/09/17/7-types-of-happiness/

http://trainugly.com/three-types-happiness/

https://www.elitedaily.com/life/motivation/2-types-of-happy/1045960

http://bigthink.com/scotty-hendricks/three-kinds-of-happiness-and-how-to-achieve-them

https://theskillcollective.com/blog/the-3-types-of-happiness

http://www.businessinsider.com/the-3-different-types-of-happiness-and-what-you-can-do-to-achieve-them-2016-4/?IR=T

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25 thoughts on “How to achieve the different types of happiness?

  1. Such an interesting read because all too often happiness is this kind of elusive concept, and we barely recognise that there’s more than one ‘type’ of happiness. The Scandinavian thoughts on happiness are becoming more known about in Western cultures and I think that’s opening up mindsets a little more too thankfully on what can constitute happiness and how to ‘achieve’ it (rather than looking at things that we think could make us happy – money, career, abundance of stuff etc – that don’t make us happy if/when they’re achieved). Great post! 🙂
    Caz x

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    1. You pointed out an important fact. Stuff doesn’t make us happy. People do. When we buy someone a gift, be happy because of the thought rather than what the gift actually is. Of course what sort of gift shows whether the person has put some thought into it and should up that happiness quotient. =)

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  2. The simple pleasures of Epicurus are a good starting point, but seeking pleasure for its own sake is an insidious trap, albeit a very common attitude. And the wise man always goes the opposite way to the common man. But overall you have raised so many interesting points that I felt like commenting on each paragraph. The best I can think of is link to what I have also written on this same topic:
    https://planetlonelyblog.wordpress.com/2017/12/01/that-elusive-happiness/

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  3. Interesting.

    You are living in America ..
    After growing up /living in Asia ..( just wondering how definition of happiness are different..). I have asked “ how happy are you ?( scales )”.. yes, in America . I felt so stressed that time , so I couldn’t say “I am so happy (like 8-9-10) “… actually I felt happiness levels are 1or 2. That means : the conditions , I didn’t feel homesick at all.. but I couldn’t hide my real emotions . But some expected I would be saying “ scale 8-9 suppose ( I had to make some gesture for how huge happiness I have ). Also even I was scolded . “ Why you can’t say I am so happy !”. Quite strange but after coming back to home country, I got similar experiences sometimes . Not gestures but from my way of talking / expressions. Obviously I don’t feel happy or satisfied at all. So some got upset . Well.. happiness are not forced . “ Are happy ?”— not easy to response. “ are you feeling happy at this moment ?”: that’s easier to reply. Also maybe after 10minutes later situations are changing ..? From my personal experiences, sometimes it’s almost impossible to even say : sometimes better to say White lie and make someone’s feeling satisfactions in stead of get mad. But about myself, not easy to keep pretending : so I just trying to say alternative way . Also from my personal experiences: when we keep saying I am not lucky or why this happens to me (.. ). Just better to change our mind shift to optimistic way. Of course if we are very serious sickness , better to say honestly . Otherwise , saying optimistic at least .

    Or saying thank you ( even someone’s get mad … : they care you even they are like enemy or hostile , I mean , even they like you or not , they have interested in you . That mean , they are expected you to answer your positive feedback : that means , they thought they did something good .. even not that ‘s good for you ).

    Anyway ….
    On this complexed societies / world , better to save your energy and use effectively way . “ words “ have powers : even intended or unconsciously.

    Keep repeating ( even on your mind ) :
    Something “ better words / experiences “.
    Or maybe quotations .

    Your life will be improved ( if you are feeling unhappy …).. and then better to “ use “ the good / positive / optimistic words when you feel to do so.

    Nowadays when we are on coffee shop for quick orders. Or buying some items at convenience shops ( 24hours open ). We don’t talk that much as shop staffs and customers.

    But at least I dare to talk a few ( as they also being busy / need to concentrate on their works as they made mistakes , many customers claiming.. ). So at least I am trying to say thank you as a customer ( even I purchased). Also I am trying to be somehow smile ( not big smile but somehow ).

    It’s super / crazy easy to communicate on the web ( .. mostly one way but …),
    I do rather trying to talk even one minute with new people everyday or at least some days of a week .

    Sometimes I can get surprising benefits .

    I will write this interesting phenomenons another times .

    After all… on this modern / digital era,
    Many people are unconsciously seeking some opportunities to communicate in person / face to face .

    Thank you for reading .., :
    if anyone really reading ..:-)

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    1. Thanks for the reply. Situations play a part in our momentary happiness or at the perception of it. Deeper happiness comes from within when we have achieved or know that we will achieve it one day. The last part deals with hope. The current digital options complicates things and I do agree that people should talk more as it serves to bond rather than just pure messages. The other portion is to compare your happiness with someone else’s which to me is a big no-no. What you achieve is in your hands and you can make that difference. But it has to start sometime. Preferably now.

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